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hello friends we are here to once again discuss neurolinguistic programming with four pillars we have discussed in detail what is neurolinguistic programming today is the high time to know about four pillars because these four pillars are very important to get the real gist of neurolinguistic programming what are these four pillars four pillars the first of the four pillars is outcome orientation or put another way what do you want one way to discover what you want is to go into the future and look back at your life achievements then you have figured out what you want ask yourself the following question what will that do for you when do you want it and where do you want it now this is the four pillars in which we have rapport sensory ah acquitment and then outcome thinking and then behavioural flexibility so if we discuss the outcome orientation based on all these four pillars very important because such questions what will that do for you when do you want it and where do you want it itdepends on several things so let us think what could be about with whom did you want it conversely when do you not want it where do you not want it what do you get out of your present behaviour that you wish to preserve these questions are elements of a well formedoutcome that is why it is said that neurolinguistic programming is self discovery program to know yourself because sometime it happens that you do a thing without your willingness and naturally the result is not up to the mark so it is very important to know your own self while pursuing any task so the main principles in n l p four pillars are used as foundations for assessing and responding to behaviour so all the four pillars whether there it is rapport sensory acquit and then outcome and then behavioural flexibility these four are together to respond to your behaviour and the first and forms is relationship even relationship with your own self specifically that quality relationship of mutual trust and responsiveness known as rapport so it can be applied both to your relationship with yourself and your relationship with other that is why it is always advisable that first you love yourself first you respect yourself first you try to know yourself then then only you will be in a position to know other so if we see rapport out of these four pillar it is very important may be this is the soul of the four pillars of neurolinguistic technique or program so you have probably felt thorn between two courses of action at some time in your life it happens even while taking decision sometime we are forced to think to be to not to be that is the question which way should we move have you ever heard yourself saying things like part of me wants to do this but something stops me yes very common saying that i wanted to do something but something stops me within so the greater the degree of physical rapport you have with yourself the greater your health and well being for the different parts of your body are working well each other the greater your mental rapport with yourself the more you feel at peace with yourself for the different parts of your mindare united so the sequencing of body and mind is as important as taking breathe and eating food so rapport at the spiritual level can manifest at a sense of belonging to a larger whole beyond individual identity and knowing our place in creation i mean these days ii i referred earlier also that these days this term is schizophrenia a split personality is very much in fashion what is this that the two personality split personality you dont know your personality now if you have rapport with the two split personality you can work together so it is spiritual level that can manifest as a sense of belonging to a larger whole that is your soul also so there are many who have all the external trappings of success yet are unhappy within themselves i mean in the present scenario maximum casesare like this money power position but is still unhappy so you may have noticed that such people make others uneasy too now a sense of ah i mean ah depression that try to make other also unhappy we seem to arrange the world in a way that reflects our internal state yes if you are sad the entire would appear to be sad if you are happy the entire world appear to be happy so this is a very i mean commonthing and very logical thing so internal conflicts create external ones and the quality of the rapport we have with our self is often as a mirror of what we achieve with others it is a kind of mirror you look into the mirror if you are sad your face will be droop if you are happy your face will be charming so it is the mirror so you are looking into the mirror of your soul mirror of your heart that is n l p that is rapport so the first pillar is rapport we all ah know this is one of the most important aspect of n l p when you are building a relationship with others and yourself you want to build rapport so it teaches usgreat techniques that we can use quickly to gain rapport with individuals whom we deal with at work in our day to day family life or a stranger we come across who we want to build rapport with quickly and easily so it is important not only for personal life personal life ah professional life but at large with the worldso success is really based on good communication skills and trusting relationship i told you in the previous discussion that we get success how when we have a command over expression command over language because you have quality potential but if you fail to express yourself well you cant achieve the target so the secret of developing such relationship comes down to rapport pronounced rapier rapport is something which happens naturally and when we meet new people sometimes we just seem to click whereas at other times we just dont seem get along at all yes that is rapport building a bridge so rapport is a skill which can be developed by using our sensor acuity i mean four pillars so rapport sensor acuity to read other people and to adjust our approach or our level of communication if necessary in order to achieve the desired outcome having similar ideas using similar speech pattern agreeing with an acting similarly to other people helps to develop a stronger rapport with them and these are all technique which are taught in n l p so sensory acuity because we all know that rapport is important and it is good to establish a very close bond between yourself and betweenyour body now and and between others also so how through what are the mediums and the mode through which we establish rapport it is sensory acuity so the ability to perceive or experience through the lens of our own five senses yes sensory acuity means whatfive senses our smell ear nose eyes and feelings so the ability to perceive or experience through the lens of our five senses so do you notice when you walk into someones home or a new store with what you see the colours and decor or do you hear music playing or people talking or do you smell food cooking or do you notice flower blooming each of us notices different things and uses our senses to experience life this is a kind of antenna through which we get all feeling and vibration or sensation so neurolinguistic programming help us to understand how each of us views the world and assist us in better communication as a result of understanding how we perceive the world versus how others may perceive it so asking questions and observing reactions or by know by knowing how a person process information helps us better understand them and hence results in better communication with them we were talking about ecology that is the surrounding that is the people the environment the circumstances so it is with the help of sensor acuity that we could be able to know these all circumstances so event so sensory acuity is a important phrase used in neurolinguisticprogramming and it deals well being more aware of everything that is going on around you us and everyone many people move their everyday in a trance yes we are so so stressed in work pressure that we hardly bother that who is dying where is accident happening because we dont have time really unaware of what is going on around them so some quick exercise when we talk of sensory sensory acuity without looking at your watch can you describe itmay be not i mean it it happens with me if people ask me the car number i cant tell i cant remember i can recall how many how ridiculous it is that i dont know my own car number i dont know my own mobile number very ridiculous why because i am not aware of i am in trance doing my daily work in a very ah i mean in a strived manner so without looking at your watch can you describe it what colour is the face of the watch are the numbers roman numericor ordinary do you have a second hand does it rotate smoothly or does it glide is there a name written in the face if so is it in capitals yes sometimes no unless we pay attention very serious attention to it so you may look at your watch everyday but not really know or take in much about it i drive my car everyday but hardly knowing thatwhat is the exact car number so sensor acuity is when you become aware of everything you ah pay your attention very much so practice your sensory acuity how now this exercise is a two person exercise a and b bs job is to observe a to simplify the discussion let us assume a is a male b is a female so a closes his eyes and thinks of someone he dislikes while a thinks about this person a begins at top of his head and slowly moves his attention down his own body noticing any physiological reaction to thinking about this person for example a may notice tension around his eyes yes if you are in tension it it will be like this very natural and normal a pain in his shoulder or heavy feeling in his stomach so there is a difference between a person who is at comfort and who is in tension so a a as a is scanning his body he tells b what he is observing so once a finishes describing what he has observed b tells a what she has observed for example she may have observed as eyes closed tightly a red flashing around his neck very shallow breathing twitching of a finger on his right hand a change in his tone of voice or an energy pushing heraway from a so once step three is completed a stretches and or looks around the room and this called a break state and clears the mind of the internal representation of the person a dislike so it is very obvious if you come to observe others that what kind of activity is going on i mean if you observe minutely so a closes his eyes and repeats step two and three while thinking of someone he likes so b ah break state by stretching or looking out the window this is the kind of break to start once again so a may be surprised at the different internal reactions that he had between thinking someonehe dislikes and someone he likes he may also be surprised by the reaction that he was not aware of that b descried to him so as a result of this exercise a may discover that he does telegraph his feelings through ah thought to others even if it is an unconscious level very true because we have telepathy also telepathy intuition and this is hundred percent fact so a chooses one of the two people he thought about earlier and does not tell b which person it is he closes his eyes and thinks of this person from what she observed earlier b tells a who a is thinking about almost like magic if you are thinking of your enemy naturally the kind of facial expression will there and if you are thinking of your beloved one or loved one naturally the expression will be like that so this is sensory acuity
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Now outcome thinking is yet another important aspect of the fourpillars of n l p neurolinguistic programming so we are moving slowly gradually you know to the height of neurolinguistic programming and how these four pillars are important because your entire learning attitude if you try to acquire n l p rest on these four pillars so the third pillar is outcome thinking this is about knowing what you want rather than what you dont want and it provides you with tools that help you take charge of your life in order to focus on desired outcomes and hence achieve the results you want yes ifyou controlled your desire it helps you remove negative thoughts and believe and focus on desired goal instead so negativity is a very bad aspect in neurolinguistic programming so how to remove negativity that is very important now this is about knowing what you want rather than what you dont want so n l p provides with the tools that help you take charge of your life in order to focus on desired outcomes and hence achieve the result you want and many of us often remain unclear on what it is what that we truly desire in life and therefore we sometimes drift from one thing to another with a level of uncertainty what is the definition if success how a person is being rated as a very successful person or achieving the desired goal because he or she has a focused kind of action the moment you you switch from one to another naturally that kind of concentration will be disappeared so however without having a clear vision of what it is we really want we are less slightly on go onto achieve or to attain those things clearly focusing and thinking about what it is we truly desired help us i mean orientate our resources towards achieving itnow how we remember god how we want to get something from god complete medication complete dedication now similarly you have to also if you want to achieve the goal you have to be focused be positive be dedicated and be soul focused on that particular aspect so outcome can be considered to be a goal no matter how large or a small so it may be that you wish to learn to play a musical instrument and therefore a fairly a small gaol or it may be that you want to become a millionaire and is therefore a very large goal now this particular programming that is n l p teaches that in order to achieve such goals its very important to have a clearly defined well formed outcome so regularly what it is like to already have those things and having those visions and desire as crystal clear as possible it help us to actually achieve those things the more clearly know what it is we want the more likely we are to get it and this basically comes down to something called a fundamental law of attraction yes fundamental law of attraction means the force you have to look into the goal you have to the main outcome you have to deeply involved in the well formed outcome now a wiseman said they there are two types of people those who set goals and those who dont he added the people who dont set goals end up working for those who do yes this man was a very successful entrepreneur who had always has excellent sound byte bits and another great saying he had was by failing to plan you are planning to fail and these quotes made sense so what is difference between a goal and a outcome then so by failing to plan you are planning to fail i mean vice versa you aremaking a kind of plan that will be failed and naturally it will be failed because it is a kind of failing planning so the two types of people those who have goal and those who are without goal and naturally those who are without goal they ended up working for those who have goals so in some ways a goal and an outcome are similar and in other ways they are different a goal is a very specific measurable in the sense it can be touched and is generally linear generally linear keep in mind so an outcome is higher level difference between goal and outcome higher level multi dimensional and usually includes multiple small goals in terms of creating change in your life an outcome can be something that is not necessarily tangible in the sense it can be touched that is you could have an outcome to be smoke free or ultra fit the evidence criteria for the outcome is what is measured the evidence criteria may consists of many goals one of the many contributions n l p made to the world of person development is utilisation of outcome criteria so how to ah get a perfect outcome there is certain criteria so what are the outcome criteria because if we talk of goal and outcome so we see goal can be for a very small thing but outcome means a very large thing for which you are trying and and for which is your desired goal so is stated in positive terms again i mean be positive so focusing on what is ah wanted is often a major shift in thinking and many people focus on what is not wanted yes i mean what we have we are not focusingwhat we dont have for which we are focusing and what happened we just moved into a state of depression so they want to be fat they don't want to poor and so on and there is a personal development saying that you get what you focus on why invest time and energy dwelling on what you dont want create an outcome and put your attention on achieve it yes i mean you can also practice that why invest time and energy dwelling on what you dont ah wantyes how much money is required for a good life if you want that after that what is a need of earning more money what is the need of earning more wealth so same thing because if you fail and if you compare yourself with the other naturally you will slip into thenegative position so other is initiated and maintained by self to be successful it is important to hold the range of your own personal achievement yes your personal achievement a a feeling of discontentment sorry contentment the outcomes you set are for you and controlled by you you are the master of everything so nobody else is responsible for the success or the lack of it create outcomes where you are the instigator of the process and the catalyst at each leverage point in the outcome yes you are the failure you are the success one so it is you entirely you who can judge that what is reason behind failure and what is the reason behind success then a specific sensory based description of outcome a steps and evidence multiple description like visual auditory kinaesthetic representation that is vak generally called vak is a key element of n l p the evidence procedure is what will be happening when you achieve your goal if you are a sensitive to your unconscious signals you can text the end result representation for congruency in every language this meansdoes it feel like you can actually achieve this if there is doubt work on the doubt one should remove the doubt before you move ahead for getting the goal or the outcome so a specific sensory based description of outcome steps and evidence very important that is visual auditory and kinaesthetic representation more than one way to get the outcome i mean we shall discuss this in detail later on that is behavioural flexibility but once again it is the part of outcome also once again it is a part of rapport also so once you have a strong set of congruent representation for the outcome think of multiple ways for achieving it use multiple description that is vak visual auditory and kinaesthetic for each different choice and place no value judgement on the different ways you can achieve your goal justbe highly creative so if your sensitive to your unconscious singleit will provide you with feedback on the different choices you are considering between unconscious and conscious meditation pick one or two choices that seem to work best however always be opento new choices whilst on the journey of getting the goal yes be open to new choices that is be more than one way to achieve the goal so first step is specific and achievable so this is the key for taking action you want to initiate the first step as soon as possible by achievingthe first step you are on the way to achieving the outcome now increases choices this is also the part of that flexibility only to the increase of choice is key element a fundamental premise of n l p coaching is creating more choice a counter example is where a hypnotic would install a revulsion for certain type of food and in doing so assist a client to reach a weight goal so however this invention intervention has removed a choice for the client in n l p a part of an outcome is changing a behaviour that is no longer support you the behaviour that you are seeking to change remains one of many choices so neurolinguistic programming we do not take away a choice of a any behaviour we give out client the resourcesto make new positive choices of course the positive choices series of choices and yes ecological so in n l p ecology means how the path relates to the whole system in outcome setting the question is how does achieving this outcome impact the integrity of the system when an outcome is viewed with the whole system in mind it may be established that the consequences of the outcome are negative in this case you would adapt the outcomes so in terms of the whole system the consequences are positive if in the outcome is deemed ecological you then attribute the appropriate level of energyat making the outcome happen so ecology that is your surrounding premises very important so to summarise successful people regardless of their neurolinguistic programming experienceset outcome the n l p outcome setting process help make an outcome more concrete as well as testing the congruency behind an outcome a well trained n l p coach works with client to help them to define ah their outcome in a congruent manner the use of third observer position is useful in exploring the congruency an ecology of an outcome so when you set outcomes you tend to get lucky and ah attract to you what you need to make the outcomes a reality so what are you waiting for set an example set yourself an exciting outcome and enjoy achieving it it is you who have to fix up a outcome an outcome an outcome that is based on the positive thinking that is based on your person attributes now thank you very much.